Author: Genn

It’s not just your kid, it’s every kid.

(I know I said this a LOT when I was a kid…and an adult!)

At some point, your child is going to say it. “I don’t want to practice.” Maybe it’s after a long day. Maybe it’s every day for a week. It happens.

That doesn’t mean they’re not musical. It doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong. It just means they’re human and practice is work.

The Real Reason Behind the Resistance

Most of the time, “I don’t want to” means:

• “It’s hard and I’m frustrated.”
• “I’m tired.”
• “I forgot what to do next.”
• “I want to do something else”

They’re not avoiding music. They’re avoiding the feeling of not being good at it (yet).

What Can You Do?

Keep it light. Skip the lectures and instead offer a small, doable option:

“Let’s just play for 5 minutes and see how it goes.”

More often than not, once they start, they keep going. That first note is the hardest part.

And if they truly need a break? That’s okay too. Rest is part of the process.

Let Them Be the Expert

Another trick? Flip the script. Ask them to teach you one note, one rhythm, or how to hold the instrument. When they feel like the expert, their confidence grows!

Try This:

Next time you hear “I don’t want to,” respond with:

“Show me one thing you remember from class.”

No pressure. Just curiosity. That tiny invitation might be all they need to get started. 🙂

Take the pressure off.
Next time your child says “I don’t want to,” invite them to show you just one thing. Small wins spark confidence and often lead to more music than you expect.

You don’t need to play an instrument to help your child find their tone.

This month’s Mini Goal from Brighton Music is all about sound – specifically, helping your child explore what a clean, confident tone sounds like on their instrument.

And guess what? You absolutely don’t need to know what “good tone” is to make this work.

Why Tone Matters Early On

Before worrying about notes or songs, the first real skill in learning an instrument is simply learning to make a steady, clear sound. That’s true for every instrument, whether it’s a bow gliding across strings or air buzzing through a brass mouthpiece.

When students focus on tone first, everything else (notes, technique, reading music) builds on stronger footing.

How You Can Help: Even If You’re Not Musical

Try this simple conversation at home:

“Can you show me what a good sound on your instrument should be like?”
“What does a not-so-good one sound like?”

They’ll love showing you both and probably giggle at the difference. Just giving them the space to demonstrate helps them tune into what they’re learning in class.

If they’re not sure yet? That’s okay too. Explore it together. Listen for the differences. Ask how it feels when the sound is right.

Try This:

Ask your child to play their best sound of the day and give them a little round of applause. They’re not aiming for perfect, just clearer than yesterday. And that’s progress. 🙂

Celebrate sound, not perfection.
Ask your child to play their “best sound of the day” and cheer them on. Come back for more Mini Goals that make music fun and motivating at home!

Because the first win in music class is knowing how to begin.

Each month, we’re sending you a Mini Goal: a simple way to support your child’s journey in band or orchestra. This month, we’re focusing on something teachers wish every student had down: how to properly set up their instrument.

Why Setup Matters So Much

For teachers, the first part of every lesson can feel like a juggling act – 15 students, 15 cases, and a hundred questions like “Which way does this go?” and “Where’s my reed?”

When students know how to set up their instrument correctly on their own, it frees up valuable class time for actually making music. It also builds confidence and responsibility from the start.

What You Can Do at Home

Sit with your child and walk through their setup together. Depending on the instrument, this might include:

• Opening the case safely (and knowing which way is “up”)
• Assembling parts in the correct order
• Proper posture and hand position
• Attaching reeds, bows, straps, or mouthpieces the right way
• How to clean up and pack it all away

You don’t need to know the names of everything, just ask your child to explain it to you. That process helps them remember it more clearly.

Try This:

Ask your child:

“Can you show me how you set up for class?”

Practice it a few times together. If they’re unsure, we’re happy to walk you through it too. You’re giving them (and their teacher!) the gift of readiness.

Confidence starts before the first note.
Practice instrument setup with your child this week and watch their confidence grow. If they get stuck, we’re here to walk you through it together.

Don’t panic. It’s probably not about the music.

Hearing “I don’t like band” or “I don’t want to be in orchestra anymore” can feel like a gut punch, especially when you’ve seen how much they’ve grown already. But here’s the good news: it’s a common bump, not the end of the road.

What’s Really Going On?

Most of the time, “I don’t like it” means something underneath:

• “I feel behind.”
• “It’s harder than I thought.”
• “I’m comparing myself to everyone else.”

It’s not the music that’s the problem, it’s how they feel in the moment.

This Is Where You Come In

Don’t try to talk them out of their feelings. Start by getting curious.

“What part do you like the least right now?”
“What’s something that’s been really hard lately?”

Their answers might surprise you and help you support them in a way that actually helps.

Normalize the Struggle

Let them know it’s okay not to love every minute. Even the most passionate musicians have off days (or off months).

Quitting in a hard moment is like closing a book halfway through. Sometimes the best parts are still ahead.

Try This:

Ask one simple question today:

“If you could change one thing about band/orchestra, what would it be?”

Then just listen. That one conversation can unlock what they really need from you.

Lean into the conversation.
The next time your child says “I don’t like it,” try asking what feels hardest right now. We’ll be here with more ways to support, encourage, and keep their music journey moving forward.

Let’s connect their music practice to what they already love.

Sometimes practice can feel like a chore – especially when it’s all scales, warm-ups, and unfamiliar songs. But there’s a simple way to bring back the spark: connect it to music they already enjoy.

Ask Two Simple Questions

“What’s your favorite song to play right now?”
“What’s your favorite song to listen to?”

These questions open the door to creativity, curiosity, and connection. And they remind your child that music isn’t just a subject, it’s something they live.

Personal = Powerful

When kids get to play music they recognize or love, something shifts. Practice becomes a choice, not a task. Confidence grows. Motivation kicks in.

And you don’t have to wait for their teacher to assign it. If they love a particular song (even a pop tune or video game theme) we may be able to help you find a simplified version they can learn.

Try This:

Ask those two questions this week.
Then let us know what they say, we’d love to help you track down the sheet music! This is where music becomes theirs.

Make music theirs.
Ask your child what song they love most this week and explore ways to bring it into their practice. Come back for more ideas that turn practice into play!

One question that helps your child see how far they’ve come.

Progress in music isn’t always obvious. It happens in quiet, gradual ways – like smoother finger changes, fewer squeaks, or finally remembering that one tricky note.

But kids don’t always notice how much they’re growing… unless we help them see it.

This Question Shifts Everything

“What’s something that used to be hard but is easier now?”

It’s simple, but powerful. It turns their focus from frustration to progress. From what’s wrong to what’s working.

And when they realize they’ve improved, even a little, motivation kicks in again.

Why It Works

Kids often measure success in big milestones: finishing a song, getting a good grade. But most of music happens in the tiny, invisible steps. This question brings those wins into focus.

You’re not just helping them reflect. You’re helping them build confidence.

Try This:

Ask that one question during dinner or on the ride home:

“What’s gotten easier for you in music lately?”

Then pause, let them think, and celebrate whatever they say.
Progress isn’t always loud, but it’s always worth noticing.

Progress deserves to be celebrated, even the quiet kind.
Keep this question in your back pocket and watch how it shifts your child’s perspective. Come back for more simple ways to nurture confidence, joy, and a lifelong love of music.

And how to gently encourage more without the eye rolls. 🙂

Here’s a common surprise: many beginning band and orchestra students don’t actually bring their instrument home very often. It stays in the locker. Or the back of the music room. Or the bus.

But playing at home (even just a few times a week) is where confidence really starts to build.

Home Practice = Safe Practice

At home, there’s no pressure. No one to compare themselves to. Just space to explore and repeat things at their own pace.

Even 10 minutes, 2-3 times a week, can make a huge difference.

You Don’t Have to Enforce. Just Encourage!

Instead of saying “You need to practice,” try something like:

“I’d love to hear that piece you’ve been working on.”
“Can you show me the note you struggled with last week?”

Your interest signals that this matters and that they’re supported.

Let Them Feel Seen

One of the biggest motivators for kids? Knowing someone cares about what they’re doing. A short concert for you, a sibling, or even the family pet can reignite that sense of pride.

Try This:

Ask your child to bring their instrument home once this week and just play one short piece for you. No critique. Just applause.

Little moments matter most.
Encourage your child to bring their instrument home, even just once this week, and celebrate the effort, not perfection. We’ll keep sharing ideas to make those small steps feel fun, inspiring, and worth coming back for. 🙂

Because a different approach can reignite the spark.

When practicing feels habit-bound or boring, mixing in something fresh can make all the difference. Here are a few simple ideas to bring back the joy:

1. Play-Along Backing Tracks

• Kids can feel like rock stars with simple play-alongs that match their skill level.
• Style options: pop, jazz, movie themes, you pick what resonates.
• Plus, timing and phrasing feel different (in a good way!) when there’s a groove to follow.

2. Musical Games & Apps

• Rhythm Clapping Games: Turn rhythm drills into a game: “copy this pattern” or “beat the beat.”
• Treble or Bass Note Bingo: Make flash cards and play bingo, reinforces note names in a playful way.
• Tune Hero (or similar): Game-style platforms that score progress and celebrate wins.

3. Write Your Own Four-Note Melody

• Grab paper or an app and let your child compose a simple, four-note tune.
• No rules! Just encourage creativity and experimentation.
• Bonus: ask them to perform it for the family!

4. Duet Play-Alongs

• Think karaoke with instruments.
• You can play a simple melody behind them or use pre-recorded duet tracks (like piano + melody).
• Playing along builds confidence, connection, and fun.

5. Visual Practice Logs

• Use color stickers or stamps for every successful practice day.
• Add smiley faces or notes for breakthroughs or firsts. 🥳
• It turns tracking into an achievement board.

Try This:

Choose one of these resources and try it out together this week. Let your child pick – no forcing, just exploring. It could turn a stale moment into a highlight of their day.

We’d love to hear what sparks joy in your home.
Tried one of these ideas? Got your own twist? Share it with us next time you visit, or tag us in your music-making moments. Every little breakthrough is worth celebrating and we’re here for all of it.